Goals are hard to accomplish
And even harder when you’re on your own
Once upon a time… (Or two years ago…)
A young girl started writing stories. She’d always wanted to write, but had never managed to finish anything. This time, however, she was determined that she’d complete at least one story.
She spent hours pouring out her thoughts onto paper and writing her story. There were many times when she felt like giving up, like her writing would never be good enough. Thankfully for her, when those feelings came, she had a way to get rid of them and keep writing.
See, her parents knew about her love of writing, and they supported and encouraged it. They paid for writing classes and lessons, encouraged her, and gave her feedback on her writing. Not only that, but her friends were excited about her writing, too, and their excitement helped fuel her motivation.
Now, two years later, that young girl sits at her desk, writing a blog post, plotting another novel, and still pursuing her dream of publication. Not because of anything particularly extraordinary about her, but thanks to the encouragement and support she has received from those around her.
The reason for the above sentimentality surprisingly isn’t so I can sit here and reminisce about when I started writing. It’s actually there to illustrate the fact that trying to achieve your goals alone is a lot harder than trying to achieve them with help, support, and encouragement from those close to you.
The people you hang out with will influence what you think and say and are excited about. So if the people you hang out with are excited about what you’re excited about, you’re more likely to remain motivated about your passions.
Vice versa, if the people you hang out with disregard or don’t know about (and therefore can’t be excited about) your passions, you run the risk of losing motivation and flat out giving up. And giving up, admitting defeat, is not something we should aim for.
3 Ways to Gather Support
Great, Julia. You’re probably thinking. So maybe I need people’s support, maybe I don’t. Either way, how in the world am I supposed to get that? You don’t actually want me to go and tell people what my deepest desires are, do you?
Or maybe you aren’t thinking that. I’m not a mind reader (yet) so I wouldn’t know. I’m just going off of my experiences, and I’ve always had trouble admitting my innermost desires, though I’m pretty good at babbling on about them once I have…
Some of you will find talking to others as easy as breathing. Others won’t. Some of you will already have a group of encouraging people. But for those who don’t, or who struggle with gaining support, I’ve compiled a few of the things that have helped me.
1. Prove your ‘dreams’ are more than just dreams.
This is undoubtedly the first and most important factor, especially when involving your parents in your goals. Many times parent’s seeming lack of excitement for your goals is that they just think that they’re a passing fancy, and don’t realize that you take it seriously.
Sometimes it is just a passing fancy. There are many times when I get obsessively fascinated by something for a while, only to lose interest after a week or so. But when you know that you have found something you truly want to accomplish, something that’s more than just a dream, you need to make this clear to your parents.
Investing money into a course that teaches you more your interest and helps you achieve your goal, spending time and energy pursing your ambitions, and consistently meeting a goal that will help you achieve your main aspiration are all great ways of making it clear to your parents that you are serious about your ambitions is vital to getting their support.
2. Be open and honest about what is important to you.
This can be hard, but it’s also vitally important. Talk to your parents and your friends. Be honest, even a little vulnerable, and make sure it’s clear just how important your goals are to you. It may be hard, but the only way people can support you is if they know what to support you in.
So be honest, be open, and if your friends share their goals with you, be willing to do the same as they did for you and get excited about the things they love.
3. Put actual work into your goals.
This ties in with my first point, ‘prove your dreams are more than just dreams’. Putting actual work into things that you want to accomplish is vital to actually accomplishing them, and it helps to show that you’re serious about what you’re doing, not just a dreaming kid.
Working on your goals will be different for each person. For me, an aspiring young author, work means plotting out my novel, spending time learning the tricks of the trade, and (*cough cough*) actually consistently writing blog posts.
There are the basics, the tips that I’ve gathered after gaining support from my friends and family. Much of the support I have received is due to the awesomeness of my parents and friends, but these bits of advice can still be useful, and I hope that they help you, fellow dreamer-turned-goal reacher, as you strive to achieve your ambitions.
Just remember to show that your dreams are more that just simple dreams, to be open and honest when talking about your dreams, and to work hard. You want to be supported in your goal achieving? Those three things are a pretty good way to start.